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Social anxiety disorder and the spotlight effect
4 common spotlight effect situations
4 consequences of the spotlight effect
You’re onstage giving a presentation, the spotlight creating a soft halo around you. But your mind draws a blank, and everyone’s staring at you wondering what’s wrong.
While this insecurity is rarely accurate, you may be familiar with the sensation that everyone’s eyes are on you — even when they’re not.
This is the spotlight effect, and it’s incredibly common. The spotlight effect can make you feel socially anxious and on edge. You might not want to socialize or go out publicly for fear of being judged.
And it can affect your professional development as well, as you may avoid sharing your ideas with coworkers and asserting yourself in meetings. But luckily, most people overestimate how much others’ attend to or care about their behavior.
And if you’re interested in learning how to stop being self-conscious or gaining a more well-rounded worldview, combatting the spotlight effect is an excellent first step.
The spotlight effect is a psychological phenomenon that makes you feel like everyone’s paying attention to you — be it good attention or bad. Either way, it often leads to increased self-consciousness and social anxiety.
One notable study that illuminated the spotlight effect made a student wearing a Barry Manilow T-shirt enter a room filled with peers. The student was convinced the embarrassing clothing would be noticed by 50% of the students. Instead, only 25% of students could identify the shirt.
This phenomenon has also been called the “illusion of transparency” because we feel our appearance and thoughts are as noticeable to others as to us.
This illusion is caused by cognitive distortions, also known as egocentric or cognitive biases. You’re the center of your own world — reasonably so, since you live in your body and mind. But this centrality creates a bias toward thinking you’re also at the center of others’ minds.
As a result, you might feel overly self-conscious in social situations for fear of being judged. You might also think over everything you said post-social interactions, considering whether you said anything embarrassing or if people enjoyed your company, for example.
Many people experience social anxiety accompanying the spotlight effect. But for those with Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD), the effects are more extreme.
SAD is a mental health condition where you feel extreme physical and mental anxiety symptoms in social situations. Someone with SAD might have panic attacks, excessive sweating, and racing self-conscious thoughts when socializing, for example.
Researchers have found that those with SAD experience heightened spotlight effect symptoms. They’re more aware of their behavior and highly concerned others are judging them, which can make them avoid social situations altogether.
If social anxiety is negatively affecting your daily life, consider seeking help from a mental health professional to discuss treatment options.
While the spotlight effect is fairly common, some situations cause us to feel more centered in others’ thoughts than others. Here are four of those scenarios:
Dressing for an event: Have you ever felt self-conscious about an outfit or wondered if it fit the dress code? The spotlight effect often strikes when you enter an unfamiliar environment for the first time, whether it’s your first day at a new job, a first date, or your first presentation.
The clothing you’re debating doesn’t matter — what does is your thoughts on self-presentation. You wonder if wearing (or not wearing) a particular item will make or break how you navigate the unfamiliar social situation.
The truth is that people aren’t typically considering what you’re wearing — they’re also experiencing the spotlight effect and thinking about their appearance.
This phenomenon affects you in more ways than social anxiety — here are four consequences of the spotlight effect:
You’re perceived as more self-centered: If you’re often asking friends, family, and coworkers whether they’re annoyed with you, if you said something wrong, or if you behaved appropriately at an event, they might feel like you only think about yourself. This is especially true for those lucky few who don’t experience the spotlight effect themselves.
You’re thinking of others less: When you’re busy thinking about your appearance and behavior, you’re not thinking about other important things — like your loved ones. You might miss opportunities to check in on struggling friends or do something nice for a coworker if you’re hyper-focused on your own actions.
You have a more closed-minded worldview: Placing yourself at the center of others’ minds means you might struggle to recognize the uniqueness and idiosyncrasies of their situation.
You might find it difficult to empathize with others since you’re assuming their thoughts are focused on you, not on their own perspective that stems from their diverse experiences.
You’re not yourself: Second-guessing every word or action means you’re not being authentically you. You might not tell your amazing jokes or wear your quirky outfits for fear of being judged.
It’s exhausting always second-guessing your words and behavior. Here are six ways to combat the spotlight effect and move your thoughts off of you and into the world:
Acknowledging that you’re not at the center of others’ thoughts reduces external social pressure. Remember that if you mostly focus on yourself, others do too — so they’re not thinking about you. Let that thought free you instead of scare you.
To help with this, cultivate a healthy sense of self. If you’re confident in who you are, you’ll be less self-conscious about your behavior and more focused on other important aspects of your life, like developing healthy relationships and achieving your goals.
When you're in social situations, it's easy to get caught up in your own thoughts and feelings. But if you actively listen to others, you'll be thinking about them and their fantastic ideas, not yourself.
By being less self-focused, you can decrease your feelings of social anxiety. This should also increase your sense of belonging since you’ll be more carefully tuned to others’ experiences and can empathize better.
What others think about you doesn't determine your worth. When you start to feel self-conscious, reflect on your thoughts and feelings and focus on developing self-awareness.
Self-awareness is what allows you to assess your emotions, behaviors, and thoughts and understand how others perceive you. Practicing this enables you to self-manage your emotions to avoid getting overwhelmed by the spotlight effect.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by your spotlight effect, ask loved ones for a more accurate understanding of your behavior. The more information you get negating your insecurities, the better you’ll be at not focusing on them, as you’ll have proof they don’t exist.
If you’re nervous about rambling when public speaking, practice your presentation with a friend or colleague and ask for candid advice about your performance.
Ask yourself, “So what?” after you think negatively about your actions or behavior. Use this technique to put your concerns into perspective. If you’re worried about making a mistake during a presentation, ask yourself, “So what if it does happen?” In most cases, the answer is that it won’t significantly impact your career or personal life.
If you're feeling overwhelmed, ask for help. Talking to a friend or seeking therapy can ease your self-improvement journey. Recognize negative behavioral patterns and slowly reframe your mind so these intrusive thoughts aren’t so automatic.
Because the spotlight effect is so prevalent, you can likely work with a friend to combat it. You’ll hold each other accountable, checking in on progress and pointing out moments where you’re being too insecure or centering yourself in others’ minds.
You’re valued for your unique qualities — but the spotlight effect can make you second-guess this. You have a rich life filled with deep relationships, work and life obligations, and inspiring goals, and so do others. Let yourself be worry-free.
Think about what you want out of life, who you want to be, and who you care about most, and your spotlight effect will be a thing of the past. Your worth isn’t determined by what others think of you anyways — you’re great whether you wear a funny shirt or tell an awkward joke.
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Madeline is a writer, communicator, and storyteller who is passionate about using words to help drive positive change. She holds a bachelor's in English Creative Writing and Communication Studies and lives in Denver, Colorado. In her spare time, she's usually somewhere outside (preferably in the mountains) — and enjoys poetry and fiction.
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