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We might not want to admit it, but it’s true: everyone cries. Whether we’re having a bad day or watching a sad movie — the waterworks come out and there's just no stopping it.
Sadness is a natural part of being human. Some of us spend so much time avoiding it that, when we finally do cry, it’s like opening the floodgates. Days or weeks of pent-up emotion come rushing out. And then, after we’re done, we feel better.
When we feel blue, we might wonder, “What is sadness for?” Sadness plays an important role in our health and wellbeing, so we’re here to tell you about the evolutionary purpose of sadness and how it affects your life.
The foundational human emotions include joy, fear, anger, disgust, and surprise. Sadness belongs on this list, too. It may not feel like positive emotion, but there are some surprising benefits of sadness:
Even the fiercest fighters know how important rest is, and sadness lets us do just that. When we’re feeling sad, we might feel tired, sluggish, and less receptive to the world. But what are our body and our mind telling us? To regain our strength.
By giving ourselves the permission to feel sadness, we’re actually regaining our strength.
When we’re sad, we look inward to identify what’s bothering, hurting, or angering us. When we know what’s hurting us, we can start healing.
When we’re sad, we can’t help it. We wear it on our sleeves. Showing our emotions can help signal that we need support. And for your support system, it’s important they’re attuned to your emotions. That way, other people that we’re going through something and may need their help.
Sadness acknowledges the special role of things in our lives. If we’re sad about a fight with a friend, it’s because that person is important to us. If we’re sad that we didn’t get a job we applied for, it’s because we care about our career development.
In a lot of ways, sadness reminds us of our personal values, our purpose, and our passions.
Life is full of things we can’t avoid. But sadness is a great teacher. What makes us sad now might not be so hard later because we’ve learned to adapt and be resilient.
Sadness is a vulnerable emotional state. But when we share it with others, we form bonds by invoking their empathy.
Human emotions are the result of millions of years of evolution. They serve specific purposes that are instrumental in our survival. Fear, for example, helps us avoid vicious predators, while anger boosts our adrenaline so we can defend ourselves.
There’s a lot we don’t know about how sadness works. But, so far, scientists can say that sadness has the following effects on people:
We usually experience sadness because we have lost something. The word “lost” here has a broad meaning.
The biggest example is the loss of a loved one. But we also feel loss when we go through a breakup (loss of a relationship), is fired from a job (loss of income), or are rejected admission to a college (loss of an opportunity). Loss comes in many forms, and so too does sadness.
There are four ways we can detect sadness in ourselves and in others:
Sadness is a complex emotion, containing many feelings within it. We can think of these as the “colors” or different possible feelings of sadness. Here are some examples:
We can also experience sadness alongside emotions like anger, fear, and even joy. Sometimes it’s impossible to untangle these complex emotions without outside help.
When we’re in a negative mood, it’s important to cope in a healthy manner. Here are some tools for your coping toolkit:
Journaling gives us a safe space to express our thoughts without fear of judgment. We process our emotions and leave them on the page when we write.
It’s common to chastise ourselves for feeling sad. But this only breeds more negative emotions. Instead, we should accept our sadness and allow ourselves to feel it.
Meditation, mindfulness, and controlled breathing can help us process our emotions in a controlled manner.
We can reach out to a friend, family member, or professional therapist. We can share our emotions with them, easing the burden on our shoulders.
There’s a reason why sad people eat ice cream and watch Inside Out for the umpteenth time. It’s good to engage all of our senses with comforting things. This is a tenet of good self-care.
Crying is like a pressure release valve. Without it, sad feelings grow, building up until they can harm us. Letting it out will help us feel better.
Some sadness takes a long time to heal from. Its lessons aren’t immediately apparent, but they will appear eventually. We need to be patient.
The key difference between sadness and depression is time. Sadness lasts as long as most emotions, spanning several hours to multiple days. But it always goes away eventually or is replaced by something else.
On the other hand, depression or a major depressive disorder is a serious mental illness that usually doesn’t go away on its own. Sometimes it manifests as persistent and extreme sadness, interfering with daily living, or it can manifest through a general lack of emotion, apathy, and numbness.
It's never too early to reach out for support. If you feel like your sadness is overwhelming or struggling with overwhelming negative thoughts and low self-esteem, you can connect with a mental health professional. People trained in psychiatry can use psychotherapy, behavioral therapy, or prescribe antidepressants to help you.
If you are experiencing thoughts of suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or text the Crisis Text Line (text Hello to 741741). Both services are free and available 24 hours a day. After July 16, 2022, the official national number is 988.
The short answer is: yes! Sadness is a deep, complex, and beautiful emotion with many benefits. When we cry, it makes us stronger. It connects us to other people. And, more often than not, it means we enjoyed something beautiful in life — even if it was only for a little while. After all, if it wasn’t beautiful, it wouldn’t be worth crying about!
Now that you know the purpose of sadness, you can embrace your next sad mood. Put on your pajamas, eat a tub of ice cream, and cry at a Disney Pixar movie. You’ll feel better.
And if you want even more life and career advice, try BetterUp. We can help you build everything from your leadership skills to expanding your LinkedIn network. Let’s unlock your full potential together.
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Madeline is a writer, communicator, and storyteller who is passionate about using words to help drive positive change. She holds a bachelor's in English Creative Writing and Communication Studies and lives in Denver, Colorado. In her spare time, she's usually somewhere outside (preferably in the mountains) — and enjoys poetry and fiction.
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